What are your intentions of going into a relationship?

Intention relationship

When we are meeting a potential partner, it will be wise to have a talk about your and her expectations around sex and relationship before being intimate. Very often we are starting to have sex before we have really got to know this person. It can safe us for a lot of trouble to ask a few question before having sex. When we are having sex we are very fast creating energetic bonds to that person and it can create more hurt and conflicts that could have been avoided by being honest and also asking a few questions.

We have gone through a journey to know ourselves better. It is a precious journey you have taken and it is important to not forget who you are, your wishes, your wounding and what you really want when you meet someone. Too many men give themselves away to early just to have some sex.

The first step is for you to become aware of what you want with your interaction? Do  you just want to have sex, then tell her that. Take the risk that she will not want to be intimate with you. Do you want a relationship? If so, what kind of partner do you want? What kind of expectation do you have for a relationship? What kind of partner is best for you? What kind of woman will fit you better? Be aware of your wounding, what is your weak spots and also your strength in a relationship based on your experience and the work we did in week 3 around our childhood and attachments styles. 

When you are meeting someone else, I believe it is important to have a talk about her expectations? Her desires, wishes and wounding? 
How was her childhood? Did she have any traumas? Has she worked on them? How can you expect that she will act out during triggers? Does she know her attachments style? Is she willing to learn more about this? I believe it is essential to know her traumas before you are going deeper with that person. It will deeply affect the relationship sooner and later. Know that you are precious and that you want to be aware of what you are involving yourself in. 

Other important questions around her last relationship/s: 
How did she end the last relationship with her partner? What does she say about him? What was her pattern? Does she take ownership of her part? Has she learned something from it? 
If she has not, you can be pretty sure that some of the same patterns will show also up in the relationship with you. 

Yes, I know you are a better version than her x...., but use it as a warning  sign and a yellow flag if she is not answering well on these questions. 

It is a good start to be aware that you have the same intentions - to grow, to go on the tantric path, to practice to love each other, practice conscious sexuality. Are there any other things that are important for you before you want to journey with someone?

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