Come always from a place of love.
A state of being in which you really want to heal and love the client through whatever pain may arise. Be there with her in the body – and be present in your touch.
The partner will feel if you are thinking about something else or bringing your awareness to another place. Hold still and allow all of his emotions to be present.
During this process, it is important to stay in your own body.
Keep your presence and enjoy what you are doing without you are needing to perform or do anything.
Pain and pleasure:
I use soft pain of the trigger point and after I have taken a few trigger points I am supporting the client to relax by giving some gentle and pleasure touched. The pain triggers the sympathetic nervous system and the pleasure activate the parasympathetic nervous system. The person gradually relaxes. You can notice this by seeing the client breathing more deeply, maybe give a pleasurable sound and fall deeper into the madras.
It is also possible to work with healing energy on the trigger points. Sending love, heartfelt energy and loving caring presence into the trigger points helps the client to let go. They feel safe, seen and taken care of. The body naturally relaxes and let go of old tension.
Never over 7 - 8 on a 10 point pain scale:
When you are finding the trigger point: Go as far as a 7 or maybe 8 out of a 10 scale.
When you are getting close to that, ask him to make sounds and breathe deep.
This is key.
You can also use the traffic light metaphor.
He is saying green, yellow and red light. We are wanting to trigger the sympathetic nervous system and go on the edge to trigger the Fight or Flight response.
We are edging there and wanting him to have space to surrender, breath deep and relax on that edge of his desired pain edge.
If you are seeing the body contracting, you are doing it a bit too hard.
Take him on the edge.
The more you are doing it, the better you will become to sense where this edge is.
Hold it still:
Hold your hands and fingers still when you press a trigger-point.
This gives her time to surrender to the pain.
He should be on the edge of her pain barrier while surrendering, relaxing, and breathing in order to open up to the pain.
The receiver opens the body, breathing and relaxing into the pain.
The receiver shall always feel that he/she is in control and can always say stop.
Breath is the second most important tool you have.
Remind yourself to breath during the session.
It is contagious.
And remind your “client” to breath all the time by using your own breath and also asking him to breath. (tell him what you will do this during the session).
It is especially important while you are pushing harder into the trigger-points and getting into a 7 on the pain scale.
The receiver's job is to stay present, be in the body and surrender to the pain.
Open up to the body and fall into it.
Relaxing the muscles and opening up to what is beyond the pain.
Ask him to give sound as well.
He can use sound when he is breathing out.
Ask him also to give sound when he is feeling the pain and also if he finds it pleasurable.
This supports us to know what he likes and doesn’t like and where he is in every given moment.
I want to give you some more key de-armouring principles before you watch a live session.